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2004-01-11 10:15:36 AM
I thought I had emailed you... I don't think I did.. did I? LOL
Anyhow, Taylor is one of the prettiest babies I have ever seen. I ran
downstairs and brought up Whit and Sam to see her pictures. She looks like a
baby I saw on the "BABY" magazine cover.She deserves every dollar she makes
modeling. I can't wait to see her add in Mervins.
Hugs
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Nope, I never got an e-mail. Thanks for the compliment...I think she's
pretty nifty myself. I'll let you know if she finally gets an ad in print!
Jamie & Taylor
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"MCranEY05" <mcraney05@cs.com>wrote in message

Thanks! It is pretty cool. We were very pleased and surprised! I'm only
on chapter 3, so don't spoil anything for me!
A strange aside (-- for me at least!):
A is for Alibi came out in 1982. I was 16 or so. At that time, Kinsey was
32. To a 16 year old, that's ancient. :->I mean, she was a contemporary
to my mom at that point, who was probably 40 something -- also ancient.
Time passes slower in the books than it does in real life, and eventually
Kinsey and I were peers -- I was in my late 20's or early 30's, and she was
34. I pick up R is for Ricochet the other night to start it, and read the
familiar opening paragraph, "My name is Kinsey Milhone. I'm a private
detective. I'm 37 years old, twice divorced, no kids...." And all of a
sudden, it hits me. I'm older than Kinsey! When the heck did that happen?
Yikes! It's like all of a sudden Kinsey is my younger sister, rather than
my peer, or my mom's age! It boggles the mind, really!
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integrate a cell phone into Kinsey's life, LOL. I can't remember exactly when
they became popular for personal use- about 1989 or 1990?
laurie
mommy to Jessica, 3 years
Christopher, 14 months
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I don't remember either. Some people did have cell phones and computers
"way back then" but they were big and bulky and expensive, so not something
that Kinsey would likely have in 1986, or whenever the books are set.
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"laurie" <ele278@aol.comnospam>wrote in message

"Jamie Clark" <jamielee6@comcast.net>wrote in message
would get a dedication (I haven't read "R" yet--going to have to put it
on hold at the library).
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I need to talk to you, please e-mail me. trmooney at cox-internet dot com
Thanks
Tracy
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Tracy,
I've sent an e-mail to your cox address. Awaiting your reply!
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"Mrsduck" <trmoone@yahoo.com>wrote in message

Sorry you missed the birth, but congratulations on your new baby daughter.
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"Anne Rogers" <annekh23@yahoo.co.uk>wrote in message
christine in oz
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I haven't been active in the group for a while....
Forgive me if you have already posted an answer to this....
Addison is growing up so quickly!
What a beautiful little girl. :)
Do you still have contact with her birth mom?
Hubby and I are considering adopting in a few years and we are just
researching others experiences with adoption at the moment....Especially
open adoption....
Samantha aka DamnOkie in Oklahoma
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Samantha,
Thanks for the compliments! We are completely out of contact with Addie's
birth parents. We supported the bmom financially for 6 weeks after Addie
was born, and haven't heard anything from them since we sent the last
payment. We still have our toll free number, and I have this fantasy that
she will contact me sometime in the next 5 years, probably after she is no
longer with the bdad. Although our adoption of Addie got a little hairy at
times, I have nothing but warm feelings for her bmom, and my heart and our
lives are always open to her, if she should ever decide to contact us.
Taylor's birthmom I am in contact with, although very light. She has a
MyFamily website much like mine, and I'm a member of her website, as she is
ours. So I can see when she logs into the site to check out photos, and she
can see when I log into her site to check out her recent photos of her and
her girls. We make comments in each other's sites, but haven't really had
any sort of serious correspondence in a long time. We haven't seen each
other since right after the birth. We actually had a date to meet last
January, but she did a no show. Oh well. I'm sure it was just too hard for
her at that point, and I can respect that, as disappointed as I was. Our
lives and hearts are always open to her as well.
Let me know if you have any other questions. I'm always glad to share my
experiences.
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Jamie
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Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 -- Little Miss Chatty, whose favorite sayings are
"What's going on in here" and "I've gotta get out of here!
Addison Grace, 9/30/04 -- Little Miss Into Everything, whose reach has
extended into the whole coffee table...nothing is safe!
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"DamnOkie" <superbcreditNOSPAM@yahoo.com>wrote in message

I looked at the pictures of Addie and Taylor's birthmom's and noticed they
had other kids. I wonder,as a birthmom, how you explain to your other
children when they ask "Why did you want her to have a better life and not
me?" When the birthmom/dad signs away their rights, do the siblings lose
their moral right to know their brother or sister?
Just so many emotions involved with adoption, it's a blessing most make it
thru it ok....
We are considering international adoption as well....
I assume it is much harder to find the birthparent in the future if the
child wants too.
Samantha
"Jamie Clark" <jamielee6@comcast.net>wrote in message

Samantha,
Yes, both of my girls have 2 other siblings. I don't know exactly how you
answer that question, although, that isn't necessarily the way that I would
have phrased the question. I'm sure that there are ways to explain it to
kids so that they understand that their mommy loves all of them and only
wants what is best for all of them.
As an adoptive mother, I have to find a way to explain to both of my girls
why their birthmother's chose to place them for adoption, but kept their
sisters and brothers. I have to make it very clear to both of them that it
had nothing to do with them -- they weren't bad or ugly or unloved. That's
my job.
Rights aren't about morality. Rights are a legal issue. I would say that
legally, the siblings have no rights. Morally, they do, which is why we
chose an open adoption in the first place. Since we have an open adoption,
even if it isn't being utilized, our hearts and lives are open to them,
should they wish to take advantage of it. But first, their moms have to
tell them that they have a sibling that she placed, and where that sibling
is. Both Taylor and Addie will be raised knowing their story, which
includes both a birth mother and birth father, as well as birth siblings.
--
Jamie
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Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 -- Little Miss Chatty, whose favorite sayings are
"What's going on in here" and "I've gotta get out of here!
Addison Grace, 9/30/04 -- Little Miss Into Everything, whose reach has
extended into the whole coffee table...nothing is safe!
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"DamnOkie" <superbcreditNOSPAM@yahoo.com>wrote in message

Oops, I mess up and sent this to Jamie first. I intended if for the group!
I'm a lurker here at best (hence my posting errors), adoptive mom to two
great kids. My oldest child
is a boy, 12.5 years old. He is almost indifferent to being adopted. Most
of the time, he can't even remember his birthmother's name (and we have
talked about her frequently, met her when he was born, have pictures, etc.).
He was 13 months old when he joined our family and is originally from El
Salvador. His birthmother had 8 children before he was born, and has placed
a total of three children for adoption in the US. We do have contact with
his biological sibling's families, but he really shows no particular
interest (at this time anyway). He has asked a few times about why she gave
him up (his words) and we can truly answer that she wanted more for him than
she could provide.
My 9 year old daughter is another story. We have an identified adoption
with her birthmother and she was born in the US. We did have some contact
and visits when my daughter was younger, but lately, although I send photos
and letters, we have not heard from her birthmother. Her birthmother had a
second daughter several years ago with a different father and she is
parenting this child. My daughter has begun to ask questions, saying she
would like to talk to her birthmother because she wants to ask her things.
Right now those things are focussed on does she have freckles like I do, but
I'm sure as time passes, Jamie is correct. My daughter will realize that
her birthmom kept one child and chose to place another (her). She also has
a biological 1/2 sibling through her birthfather, but he is in northern
Ireland and we have had no contact with him since right after the adoption
was finalized. Since she as yet has not realized that there needs to be a
birthfather, we haven't had to have that conversation yet!!!
Adoption brings tremendous joy to the adoptive family yet is a great loss
for the birthfamily. When we adopted our daughter, we needed to stay in her
state of birth for about 8 days waiting for the interstate compact to clear.
Her birthmother asked if she could come to the hotel and spend a few hours
alone with her daughter to say good bye (she hadn't had a moment alone with
her since she was born). Since we were in a state where there is no waiting
period after signing relinquishment papers, the birth mother had no legal
right to take her back. As we were leaving with our son for the afternoon,
my husband asked what would we do if we came back and she was gone? At that
point, I realized I would not fight her. I also felt a great peace-I knew
that she would not disappear with her. When we later drove her home to her
parents, it was one of the saddest moments I have experienced. She was so
clearly in love with her daughter and you could feel the depth of her pain
at making this plan to give her to another family. Yet it was also apparent
that she made this most difficult decision because of her great love for her
daughter.
I think the most important thing is to be honest and provide as much
information as your child needs at any particular time. It's kind of like
teaching where babies come from-children at 6 don't need the same
information that children at 12 or 13 need. I am planning to write my
daughter's birthmother and ask if she would be open to a phone call from
her. I think right now she might need to hear her voice which will make her
more of a reality. We'll just take it from there.
Back to lurking,
Julie
----- Original Message -----
From: "Jamie Clark" <jamielee6@comcast.net>
Newsgroups: alt.infertility.pregnancy
Sent: Tuesday, July 05, 2005 2:23 AM
Subject: Re: Jamie

Thanks for the response Jamie.
It does help :)
Samantha
"Jamie Clark" <jamielee6@comcast.net>wrote in message

Julie Senecoff wrote:
have a good experienced resource (You!) for those of us who have
"littler" ones who are adopted. Traffic is slow there, now, but every
now and then adoption topics come up, as we have a lot of adoptive
Moms.
-L.
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I was actually just thinking about you 5 mins ago (while watching Maternity
Ward on t.v) and I was thinking how great it would be if you could hold a
pregnancy to term. Then I get on here and here's a post from you :)
I was also wondering if they ever found out why you don't carry well. Or is
it a lot of things? If I could make people get pregnant and stay pregnant
you would be top of my list.
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Pip
My girls :
DD2 Abby - 8 weeks early now 11 months and cruising the furniture.
DD1 Jasmine - 5 weeks early now 3.75 yrs favourite saying "I'm a big girl
cause I go to school Kindy"
"Inside me is a skinny women screaming to get out........but I can normally
keep the b*tch quiet with cookies"
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