Board index » infertility » Do you think this is bad to do?( THANKS everyone)

2004-01-06 05:03:20 PM
a chance some might, or I wouldnt have asked everyone's opinon. But...If I
asked someone( not even a close friend..etc) what to get their child, and they
told me that their child had a lot of toys, clothes.. books..etc, and that 5.00
in a card--or less, would be great. And... that they didnt have to give
anything--just to come and celebrate the birthday. I would be very happy about
that. I usually spend 20-50 on a gift, and not only would 5.00 be better for my
pocketbook, but I wouldn't have to go out shopping for the gift. LOL
Well, it boils down to this. I wont say a thing, but if they get a bunch of
gifts, the gifts will be returned--point blank. Sam and I had a talk tonight
about all the toys..etc, he thinks they have too much and he said that
relatives and close friends should respect our wishes. I had ONLY a tiny family
party for Sammi's 3rd bday due to the fact that when we had bigger parties, it
got way out of hand with gifts. I bought this house to live in, not for a toy
storage. LOL.
My kids have so many book---you would not believe it. They have puzzles,
blocks, art supplies, computers, leapfrog learning toys, flash cards..etc.
There is nothing they need... seriously.
I know people might think I am going to take the money and spend it... but that
is not at all what i would do. I would make sure sammi and shay got it and put
it in their piggy banks. I guess it would seem funny to some people, but i dont
invite anyone but close friends and family to parties anyhow. Smile.
Thanks everyone for your input. I think I will just wait and see what they get,
and if its too much, return it or give it away.
jolinda
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mcraney05@cs.com (MCranEY05) wrote in message news:<20040106040320.16065.00001443@mb-m22.news.cs.com>...
was agreeing with what I had to say anyhow. :-)
But I did want to add something. What we have done in the past, when
the kids still had b'day parties with friends, was to ask for
donations to specific organizations instead of gifts. I set up a small
foundation a long time ago for camp scholarships to a local day camp
that has a unit for kids with Aspergers and emotional disturbances.
It's not a big thing, we may collect a thousand bucks a year, but it's
known as my kid's foundation, and it will be with them the rest of
their lives.
Depending upon the theme of the party, try and find a charitable
organization that your friends and family can donate to instead of
gifts. For example, if you're doing a wild animals theme, the local
zoo would be the logical choice.
Marjorie